My x said we had "gone our separate ways" but that was a lie.
I share your frustration juju and I am of the mind that almost no marriage ends "amicably" or mutually.
IF there was ever a strong love on one person's end or both, then I don't buy it.
I have seen maybe 2 marriages that were of convenience and almost like platonic friendships at the start, in which there was never any passion but there was a child or a perceived "need" to be married at a certain age, and those m's seemed to end with less pain, but even then, it was not "mutual" at the start.
I think the discomfort of cheaters and walk aways is a lousy thing that our society is pretending is "all for the best".
Well, yeah it is better not to have a selfish jerk in your life, but it is not painless at all.
Maybe our society is just too uncomfortable around pain.
The walking away from twins is sucktacular
reminds me of the analogy below
For my x to leave when he did, (when I was so sick & after our having gone thru so much)
is like when two policemen are on patrol duty in a dangerous area and one of them gets hit, but the other partner isn't there anymore. There is no back up...
So the downed policeman has to call in for back up --- b/c her own back up is gone --and just waits for the ambulance & puts pressure on her own wound, wondering where the heck her "partner" went --
only to learn that the partner wants to be a fireman now, not a cop...and transferred right before she was shot.
A bit dramatic, I know. But that is how it felt.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
