OK, your long post came across as very angry. Of course, anger is one of the emotions that we cycle through in this roller-coaster ride. My caution to you is to please please please avoid contact (I know you have none at the moment) in the future with your W WHILE in the angry phase. Trust me on this, you end up doing more damage that good.
Hang in there, this too shall pass.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018