This is DAMN hard. I'm loosing my best friend of 20 yrs(W), I'm now having to find a new job because I'm on short term disability (added stress) and my disability is running out. I also have to find a means to support my son and I -cuz my W was the breadwinner and my S15 is sooo mad at mom for just quitting on the family. I'm trying to facilitate a relationship betwwen them but he feels she did not give it her all and just quit. We did go to MC 4 yrs ago but reverted back to old habits. On top of that I have to prepare my home ( the only home my son has lived in )so that we can sell it and split the equity. Totally in a fog wondering how to proceed..
Wolf, just remember that what you feel now is temporary. God has you right where you need to be. You haven't lost anything. One day you may very well look back and see this time in your life as the very impetus for change that you needed. Your son will be fine. Stop trying to make her smile. This seems like an honorable goal but it is not what you should be focused on.
As unfair as it seems, now is the time that you need to respond to rational thoughts and not react to your emotions. When you feel hurt and want to project, bring it here. She if anything may notice. Just don't expect anything.
Work on Wolf and forget about the M/R for now.
M 53 W 54, M since 98 D15, D19 8/2013 discovered EA, W maintained contact with OM until 10/14 7/2/17 W said she wanted S, 7/25/17 moved out of MBR 12/17 W says moving out 5/18, W still in home.
