Wife is not who I married...please help

[AndrewP]

LoneWlf - I'm located a fair piece north-west of you although I'm currently making my breakfast to head down into Mississauga today.

You are fortunate in that there are lots of resources in your local geography. For a lot of very good reasons including the fact that the people here can be in a rather fragile vulnerable state, board policies don't allow the sharing of IRL contact information. Do you have some people around you who are providing you with emotional and practical support? It's amazing when you reach out your hand who you will find lifts you up. It certainly amazed me. You've mentioned your church and I believe you are Catholic? Your priest could perhaps help direct you to resources and also provide you with solace.

I don't know if you've checked out the stories of others here. Of the currently active posters, your story sounds a fair but like SBJ who is also a man of faith whose wife suddenly was in a huge hurry to leave. He's a great guy who has spent a lot of time searching his soul as he's walked along this path that none of us ever expected to be on.

Have you also sought out counseling? Even though I have good health coverage, my family doctor got me in to free counseling through the local health unit that gave me tools that have helped me cope with some of the very dark days that I have experienced.

If you are at a loss as to where to start with lawyers and uncertain about funding, stop by or call the local family court office. My ex did that and they provided her with resources and information. Even though for us this is a life-shattering event for the legal profession this is just another day at the office. With Ontario being a no-fault jurisdiction as long as there are no unusual extenuating factors it's just a "fill out the forms" operation on that end where things get rubber-stamped just like gettin a driver's license.

Stay strong. You need to be the "sane parent" for your son.