Because they think what they are doing is perfectly fine, nothing wrong with it.
So their behaviour just gets worse.
They can project and blame.
And if you do contact her after the RO is removed, she may set you up for another one, next time it will be worse.
Once they have done this once, you know they have no scruples to do so again. Stay away. Tell your L how you feel and don't tell the court you will stay away if you won't.
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW