Advice on my scenario Pt. 3

[OrangeK]

Affair discovered Oct 15th - She moved out next day to her mom's
Oct 16th - Jan 27th - I did EVERYTHING wrong. Begging, pleading, pursuing, sending sentimental stuff, flowers, blaming myself due to gas-lighting. She maintained this entire time that it was a one night stand, relationship wasn't continuing with OM the were "just friends" and "bumped into each other a few times coincidentally" during our separation, which she originally told me was temporary so she could "figure out how to fix the marriage", when she was just keeping the relationship going with OM. Spending time with my son and him.

I didn't begin to try and detach, or got into any research about Personality disorders and DB'ing until Feb.
All of my "breakthroughs" and "realizations" have all occurred during forced NC during Restraining Order.

So to shortly answer your question, I've been trying to detach and GAL / DB for about 3 months now, 2 if you count how long ive known about DB'ing.