Wild ride and now trapped in the Bermuda Triangle

[dmoy]

This is typical WAS behavior. They'll pull you in and then push you out and repeat. Just keep maintaining minimal contact and quit trying to examine every little thing she does to try and find meaning in it.

Huh. Must have missed this.

Detaching and GAL'ing is ALWAYS right. You can't fix her, and she doesn't want your help anyway. Focus on you and the kids.

Part of the idea of detaching and GAL'ing is so the WAS can start to realize that whatever they are feeling- depression or sadness or whatever, is not because of the LBS. They go into blame mode where they blame the LBS and decide the "fix" is to get rid of the LBS so they can finally find true happiness. The more you try to intervene and make contact and ask them out and talk about the R then the more convinced they are that it really is your fault. But when you remove yourself from the equation and they're still not happy, then they start to confront the REAL cause of their unhappiness (which is usually something within).

This is a good perspective. Thanks

First, why in the world are you texting your W at all, much less texting her pics of D crying? Second, quit looking at your W's FB page if you want some peace of mind.

Took D to specialist appointment, but I probably could have avoided sending W pic of D crying. It certainly doesn't help and the stress of whatever D has isn't helping. I don't need to keep pouring it on and should just deal with it myself.

Not looking at FB. I deleted all social media the other week. Was something relayed by my father who is the only person in my family she's still connected with.

Have you read DR? Leave her alone. Get out. GAL. Give her time and space. Quit second-guessing DB'ing, it's counter-intuitive because human nature is to pursue, but human nature is WRONG when it comes to a WAS.

Humans are stupid creatures.