I am very reluctant to give my view. This is a pro M website although I feel some M are so abusive they should not be repaired.
I think yours is one of these.
Whilst (like many that are abused) you were targeted by this woman then you have been treated so shabbily and with no feeling that there are signs of trauma bonding.
This isn't victim hood.
None of this is your fault, none of it. This sitch you find yourself in is very terrifying for your mental health. You may wish to read either Schermann or Mustardseed thread to see this level of eggshell damage.
I have an abuse councillors view of this, there are few actions more damaging than lying to get you arrested and treated to police actions.
Honey, please go NC, stay away from WW, don't communicate, no Joseph letter. Grey Rock is the order of the day.
Breaking a trauma bond is very troubling and hurts. You will have to walk to the pain and look to you. It's a long process.
Your WW has no formal diagnosis and I don't like to do so as I don't know you or her other than that which you have posted here.
I can however observe that her actions towards her child are very cold indeed and her use of you for her own ends gives me the shivers.
So briefly those who are cold are generally diagnosed as anti social rather than narcissistic (which is a trait). WW has no fears on how she looks to the world which makes her behaviour both overt and malignant. I don't believe you need a formal clinical diagnosis, it's enough to say she behaves in a cold and deeply abusive way.
It is my view that DB in these circumstances is for you, you are the one here on this board, bewildered and confused. You are the one standing for M, for its principles. You are here for your child and to repair you. DB saved my life for which I am eternally grateful. There is nothing to stop you standing for M if you so wish. To do so until you are ready to let go of this M and this WW. To become healthy for you and your child.
This kind of abuse can really harm you psychologically and drive you to ill health. There are many crazy loco (cognitive dissonance) issues for you to handle. These include absolute discard and cold contact with early love bombing, blame and false accusations with protests of love, ignoring her child vs maternity. These are very hard things to know and reconcile. It sends you mind looping and confusion ensues
There are many of us who have walked this journey before you and emerged the other side healthier in mind and body. It isn't an easy journey to reconcile the irreconcilable.
I am here to listen Orange. This isn't what you wanted to hear and this is not my normal message. I do post to those who have abuse in their sitch mainly because that is my own experience.
This is very tough stuff and you have a precious child to protect.
I always give those I post to a choice they can say no V and I will back off.
Those are my thoughts
Hugs
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
