No affair(?), no feelings...is there hope? Part II

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Her comments about feeling alone or wanting to be left alone have nothing to do with you... It has nothing to do with your asking her to cut the chicken... And in fact, she's pretty darn confusing, and you can tell her that next time she asks about your attitude, or if you are nice enough to do something for her...

Say something like, "you asked for space and I am giving it to you, and you seem to like it until there's something you don't feel like doing... Well, I am not having it... Just think of it as me giving you your space.":

Something like that...

I'm glad it isn't just me that thinks she makes no sense! I am also glad you said you don't think the being alone thing has anything to do with me. I have become very sensitive to this 'space' issue because I will admit, I used to be very over-bearing. The kind that stems from desperation and neediness, and I am ashamed. But I haven't been that way for quite some time, because I listened and changed when she said she felt suffocated all the time (and also realized I was disgusted with myself). So now, when she makes similar comments, I panic a little, but you know what? I know I'm not like that anymore, and I don't think I am the real reason. She might be trying to convince herself that problem is still real, but her issues with it now are all her own. Great suggestion on what to say! I will use it, thank you.