Hanging On (Saying ILY Pt. 2)

[mtb1981]

It just keeps getting crazier...

Last night, I was home with all of the kids. We needed milk so I was going to make a quick trip to the grocery store. I had a weird feeling, so I told my oldest son to keep an eye on the kids while I was gone and if W came over to not let her in. She had been making comments lately about taking things from the house. So in the 20 - 30 minutes while I was gone, she showed up. I don't know if it was a coincidence that she showed up while I was gone, or she had been keeping an eye on the house waiting for me to leave. Anyway, she came over, son wouldn't let her in. She told him she needed some Tylenol and that was why shw was stopping by. He went and grabbed the bottle, handed it to her through the door, and locked the house back up. She left. On my way back, I passed W on the road, and she did a quick U-turn and followed me home. Be fore I could even get out of the car, she was out of the van and standing by the car door. Started yelling at me that I was keeping the kids from her, which is far from the truth. I've beem trying to get her to spendtime with them for months. Her second sentence was asking if I had filed for divorce yet. We had only talked about seriously getting divorced the day before. I told her no and that she needed to leave leave. She looked like a hot mess. I couldn't tell if she was high, had been crying all day, or both...

Told her toleave again and she said no. Her BFF was in the van with her. I just went inside. 5 minutes later, I noticed she was still outside. I went back out and asked her to leave again. She still refused. I went back in and 5 minutes later she came beating on the door asking for her mail. I gave her the mail and told her to leave again. She still refused. Another length of time goes by and she's still outside. I go out once again and ask her to leave and if I need to call the police to get her to go. She just smiled. At that point, I knew she had already called them, so I went inside and waited...

Sure enough, a few minutes later the cops show up. She goes into a rant about how I need to give her $2000 dollars and she wans inside to take half the stuff. The cop asks me to wait on the propch while he talks to her, so I do. They talk for awhile and the he talks to me. I explained the whole situation about how she left months ago and showed up out of the blue accusing me of trying to keep the kids away from her. He told me that this was not a police matter, and I agreed. I wasn't the one who called them. Sohe goes on to explain that she can't take any communal propert from thr house without a court order, which I already knew. Told me that the kids were best off staying with me like they had been for stability, but we needed to come up with some agreement on visitation. I agreed. I told him that I didn't want her showing up randomly causing a scene. That if she wanted to see the kids or get something from the house,she needed to contact me in advance. He agreed. So he told her she had to leave...

I don't think things turned out the way she planned. I think she thought the cops would show up and just let her go in the house and take whatever she wanted. I was pretty fed up after she left, so I grabbed some garbage bags and packed up the rest of her stuff and put it in the garage. So when she shows up next time to get her things, they are alread neatly and conviently packaged and ready to go.No need to even go inside. I'm so over this crap...