WW wants to reconcile. I'm being pursued.

[joejoe1]

A,

It will take time. She has caused you pain, now you learned how to live and cope with that pain. You dont want that pain to ever come back. And deep down you know if you begin to recon, you Will have pain those old hurt feelings will resurface.

Here's the thing, you have detached, bit now you must heal. You have to let this pain out and go thru it for you to get better. You are confused because you dont know what you want out of the M.

You have to either move on with your life with your wife or without. But you have to decide. You have to be up front and honest with her.

She has to be willing to work on your terms. It's going to be very hurtful, the truth is painful. But theres beauty on the otherside of that truth.

You dont want to go thru her phone or ask questions, because you know there's hurt there and as humans we like to avoid pain.

Just know, the decision of your M is now in your hands. Cutting ties IMO won't be any easier than recon. Theres pain and hard work on both sides. It just a little different view on each side on the road.

Also maybe you are stuck in making a decision.

Either decision you decide, you now know you Will be ok.