Im sorry. For a marriage to work, both people have to be invested. This has been going on for 4 years. For 4 years you have been trying and he has been going out disappearing Right?
This is a forum for saving yourself. Most of the people in here come here because they are so afraid of losing what they know. They want to do anything to save their marriage.
Most of the people on here deal with tons of abuse becausw they are afraid to let go of soneone that is not treating them well. I know i did.
But there is no magical wand or technique that will make someone that doesn't want to stay, stay.
To me, it sounds like you will be better off. Why do i want to be with someone that doesn't want to be with you?
You have to GAL. Thats the healthiest thing. Once in a while walkaways see that And come back (usually temporarily) because they are the grass is greener type and only want what they cant have.
If you sit around and mope and beg you look pathetic. If you accept bad behavior people will just dish more of it out. Do you want to be the type of women thats with soneobe that acts as if shes not good enough? Or do you wamt to be someone desirable and loveable to their partner?
. GAL, because life is short and you don't need a disloyal and non committed spouse that prefers partying with younger peopke to enjoy your life... do you have Intel about what husband is actually doing?
