Hi Newly20, Well yes, I am certain she's been "spying" on me since she left. Several people on my FB are mutual friends. In fact her Mom "followed" me a couple years back and her Dad never unfriended me as well as some others. So yes I am certain she's been keeping tabs on me. She also still talks to a couple people in my family. If you notice a couple pages back in this thread, that first visit with her a couple weeks back she made a comment about "the string of women you ripped through" and she also referred to my exgirlfriend Mary by the nickname j gave her. She wouldn't know any of this info unless she was indeed watching me. Having said that, as far as her timing in contacting me after years about that photo album...I too wonder why that text came in less than 24 hours after I posted about having a new address. She knew I was living with Mary because she spoke to my Step-Mom for some medical advice awhile back and she told WAW. So was it simply a coincidence that WAW contacted me less than 24 hours after I posted about my address change? I have no idea my friend. All I can do is the same as you and speculate but there's simply no way to confirm it either way. My gut tells me her timing was very intentional but I have no proof. Most people I've spoken to about it tell me it was quite obviously no coincidence but who knows?
Also, I don't know that she ever came to the grass isn't greener revelation at all. All she's doing now is making sure to stay in touch and maintain a friendship with me. She hasn't given me any indication to suggest she wants to R. So it's like I say...only time will tell. All I can do is speculate what's she's thinking and as you know, in DBing, mind reading is a big no-no.
Wish I had more insight for you on this but I know as much as you guys do at this point as to what she's up to. We'll all find out together though as this all unfolds.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14