25years mlc 10 years pass I FILE #9 LAST LAP

[25yearsmlc]

Maybell

I know you're trying to tell me something, but I'm just not clear on it...

Jim -

M and I are still seeing each other. I think we have enriched each other's lives and been of great comfort to each other in a dark ordeal.

And we now know that there are people in our age range who are attracted and attractive to us, which is frankly a relief.

I don't know what will happen with us, but I DO know that I cannot make a commitment to him. I know I need to date other men AND to be on my own a lot longer. The temptation to marry sooner, b/c x h is marrying so soon, did happen but was only brief...and all about my ego.

As objectively as I can say, x is a fool for remarrying OW and to marry so fast. Just crazy. And oblivious to the appearance to ALL who knew US as a family --

that he's doing it to validate his choice to blow up a family and 35 year marriage and God only knows how he justifies the time/situation he left me in.

(I assume he hides that all) .


So, with M, I have mentioned many times that I need to be on my own and that I plan on going abroad soon. (I told him that on our first date).

When he asked what he's going to do without me (in a nice way), I reminded him that he "will date other women", b/c he's coming out of a long m too.

Note - M has been separated for 4+years- wanting out of his m, and that's a lot longer than me.

I've been very honest with him and I don't want to be hurt or to hurt him. But we all face those risks every time we date.

Like I said, he's been a great comfort in a hard time.

A few months ago there was a break in of cars in my condo's garage. Then another one and it was caught on film and really creepy to see. That happened 2 weeks ago, and M and I went to Home Depot and he installed a new deadbolt lock in my condo.

Things like that^^ mean he cares, and that means a lot to me. But I have a lot more healing and exploring to do before anything gets decided.

And he's NOT asking me to decide anything, which is also helpful.

Any news on your front?