Advice on my scenario pt. 2

[OrangeK]

If you choose to stand and essentially be in LIMBO you really have to let her go and move on with your life. If you don't and continue to hang on her every word, her every action and follow her on SM it will be very rough for you and you will delay the healing process.

Joseph,
I am doing exactly that. I expect we will get divorced, i have accepted this. I never wanted to get divorced, and i feel she needs to be the one to take responsibility for her actions, lies and decisions. If the judge denies the motion to put on hold, then i will follow that and move forward with it. If it gets accepted, i am going to continue on with MY life doing MY thing and getting MYSELF and my son ahead and healing.
If she chooses to do nothing and remain in Limbo, so be it.
If she chooses to take the initiative and File D herself, So be it.
If she chooses to keep her head in the sand for another year and discuss R, so be it. Ill listen.

All i plan on doing is whatever makes me heal and feel better.
Her actions, choices, decisions and feelings are hers to manage and live with.
If she approaches me as a friend, ill be friendly.
If she approaches me to talk about R, i will stick to my boundaries but listen and be available.
If she stays with OM, whatever.

Im not 100% there yet, but moving expeditiously to where I feel I need to be to be the best me.
That is my only REAL goal, Improvement in happiness and quality of life for myself and my boy. That's it.

Thanks for keeping me on track!