Advice on my scenario pt. 2

[OrangeK]

that logic is EXACTLY why i put my D on hold.

When i filed in Jan i DIDNT WANT TO and felt coerced into it by WW and my family.
I put it on hold the day after filing.

Once i took hold off (again, still very unsure of the descision) and we proceeded to First Appearance and Child Impact Seminar, those 2 events made me truly decide I did not want the Divorce.

The last time we spoke at the last MC meeting she said
"i was never sure if i wanted a divorce, as its such a big decsison but now i know, I WANT A DIVORCE"

i replied "Well if you are the one that wants one, and you are the one who left and is having an affair, YOU can file and YOU can get the divorce"

Of course i ended up being the one to file, but unless the judge denies my motion to place on hold, It will stay on hold until she makes an effort to actually get the divorce she "wanted" and i DONT WANT.

take responsibility for your own decisions and desire.