We had plans to take our son to an amusement park together but I'm not sure now if I should cancel them or not. We're going for our son but I'm not really in the mood for his confusing behavior. I'm tempted to tell him that I'd prefer to go with our son alone with a friend and her daughter but the sucker part of me doesn't want to hurt his feelings.
Well do what you think is best for YOU. Like I said before, cake-eating is death by a thousand paper cuts. It'll just drain the life out of you. His constant presence is a reminder of what you've lost. But if you go with a friend instead, then the pressure is removed and you can enjoy yourself, maybe even smile and laugh a little.
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Forgive my being naive and foolish
You are neither! We have all been (or currently are) where you are, none of us ended up here by choice!
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this is all new to me and I'm still in love with him and just wishing a magic spark would just solve all this overnight even though I know that wont happen.
Yeah we all come in wanting to know what one thing to do or say to "fix" this. But you're right, it won't happen like that. With time who knows. I will say from my many years here that I think you have a much better than average chance at recon, many WAH's that follow your H's pattern eventually realize they're being fools and want to return. Often their W doesn't want them back by then though.
