Wife is not who I married...please help

[LoneWlf]

Heres's my story. I am an usher at my church. My wife approached me and asked for my number. She tells me that she is separated from husband of 6 yrs(no kids). She told me she got married to escape from home because her mom is an alcoholic. We get her marriage annulled and got married shortly there after. 9 months after our wedding our son is born. I now have all that i dreamed of.We continue to go to church regularly because i participate in the mass. 4 years ago my son is diagnosed with anxiety - it puts added stress on our relationship.

We go to MC and he tells us to read the 5 languages of love. After repeated attempts to reach out both sexually and non sexually. I feel unloved, uncherished,unworthy. She has never made me a priority. I shut down. In this process i just stop asking her for sex but kept showed love through gifts acts of kindness and words of encouragement. She goes away to visit her sister whom in my 20 years with my W has been thru 6 failed relationship. Her sister is a so called life coach practicing reiki and all the new age religion. She believes ion physchic readings, tarot cards , astrology - all the things the church is against.

October 2017 W comes home says I want out. i have not been happy for a long time. I don't love you anymore. After this happens my son sees that his mom just quit on this marriage and will no longer try. He barely talks to her he so angry. She says she is moving out to an apartment in 3 weeks.

my wife has been the breadwinner and i'm currently finishing my short term disability and will have to find new work due to health issues.

I admit that I have played a part in breakdown of this M but since there was no beating , no cheating , no abuse- I feel it can be saved. Wife said her mind is made up and she is packing to leave.
Now i have lost my best friend of 20 years- my family which is all I wanted and will have to sell and move from the house my son only know.

please help!1 sorry for the long post