New LBS dealing with WW (Part 5)

[Joe2017]

Hi everyone! It has been a hell of a ride, but I'm finally at my destination.

Surfer:
I really really appreciate you checking in on me. I have been doing my best to detach and move on with my life. Early on I wanted to R the MR but as time went on, I realized that it was not possible. All of the DB and 180s paid off tremendously. I am down over 50 pounds and feeling great. I can see that I have a fulfilling life ahead of me. I am focusing on my kid and my career, and I know that things are going to be OK.

V:
VANILLA! I am so happy to hear from you. Thank you so much for all of the support you've given me over the past few months. You are a jewel. Your insights have given me so much hope and strength. I want you to know that you've made a lasting and significant impact on my life. You hit the nail on the head when you said WW is entitled. I spoiled her and instead of appreciating the sacrifices I made, she let it go to her head. She lost me, and she will never get me back. I can't R with the person she has become. It would take a lot... It would have to be on the level that Sandi talks about. STD tests, drug tests, psych evals... She would never in a million years submit to the types of things she'd have to do to earn back my trust.

Nicole:
You are right, it's so odd to me about the FB thing. When we first started dating she didn't even want us to be together on FB because she wanted to take it slow. And now she is so different. I can't explain it, not do I care to even think about it anymore. Immature is an understatement. Thank you for saying I deserve a loyal and faithful wife!

Nicole, I know what you're going though is tough. I know it's hard. I know the feeling of abandonment, the strange feeling of guilt even though you did not deserve the treatment you got. You are right, there is no shortcut. You have to push through it and live your life. You owe it to your girl.

You WILL get there. One day, a few weeks ago I woke up on a Sunday and a surprising thing happened. I literally did not care about my divorce anymore. I felt 100% OK with my life. I can tell you are on that road too and I'm proud of you. And your girl will be proud of you too. Just give it time and know that you deserve happiness!