I wouldn't say I've necessarily been "Super Husband". More "doing what I should have been doing".
That's fine, as long as you understand that she doesn't care about that kind of stuff. It's not helping your sitch or hurting it, those are "neutral" activities.
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Where I'm conflicted right now is how to treat HER. Right now we share hugs sometimes when we head out for work. Sometimes I say 'I love you'. She gave me a kiss on the lips the other day.
Don't initiate hugs or kisses or ILY. If she initiates it's fine to reciprocate. Nothing more. Do you read Sandi's rules every day? That is EXACTLY how you should treat her.
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Later she asked if someone was flirting with me while I was at work. In reality, yes, someone had. And it felt good. The girl works elsewhere, but I deal with her now and then with what I do for work. I'm not interested, of course, but it was nice to get that attention.
Good grief, you sound like a man that just dragged himself out of the desert and a lawn sprinkler sprayed a little water on him. To everyone else it's nothing, to him it's like nectar of the gods.
You're offering too much info to your W. Why does she need to know why you have a little spring in your step? The whole idea of DB'ing is to be MYSTERIOUS.
