Sounds like you did good. I am happy to hear that you were able to get through the 'business' related stuff and keep the personal and private stuff out of it or at least have it deflected.
All the other stuff sounds like temp checks. Don't get sucked in and keep doing your thing. I'd unfollow her on social media. I don't follow my W on any social media - it's good for my emotional and mental sanity, and also shows that I have no desire for pursuit. It will keep you sane.
Just follow Sandi's rules and then see how things work and adjust as needed and continue.
