If she is remorseful, then I believe you will see a humility in her spirit. She will be sad and probably depressed. She may lead by saying things like, "You probably hate me", or "You'll never be able to forgive me". Even for an outgoing personality type, it was difficult for me to swallow my pride and humbly ask my H for his forgiveness. I didn't do it right away, but I never left the home either.
Sandi,
I just re-read this, and a while back at the 2nd MC Meeting (the one where the "incident" occurred resulting in the RO) She said "I know you think i'm scum" and i told her i didn't think that and that she was putting words in my mouth. I now recognize this as projection.
How long was it before you asked you husband for forgiveness, and how long were you thinking about asking him before you did?
I also learned recently she has been under the impression this entire time She could get into trouble for violating the RO too, unless this is just a lie. She never got a copy of it and thought it worked both ways, when it definitely doesn't. Only effects me (MIL asked about it last time i swapped my son with her)
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
