44, I think you are looking at this with too much of a micro focus. Today. No matter where you are today, doesn't mean you will be in the same place in 6 months. A year. 2 years.

In sitch I was much in the same boat as you. Wife told me a couple of weeks in that thinking about intimacy with me was like having it with "so-and-so" where so-and-so was an unattractive guy we new peripherally. It hurt. But guess what, a few weeks later she couldn't get enough of sex with me. (Not that it directly equates with intimacy, but it was more intimate than she was willing two weeks in.)

So stop focusing on where you are at now and think about what you are doing that will pay dividends in the future. Again, if R is your goal. Again, read ItHurts thread. He and his wife were D'd and not in contact for 4 years. That isn't even the friend zone! And now she is pursuing him again. This all will happen on its own timeline, not on yours.

M(53), W(54),D(19)
M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017
Ring and Piecing since March 2018