But I am wondering if the kids feel that the parents are spending some time together and are they going to get back together?
We really don't spend that much time together. We see each other at kid exchange on Sundays for roughly 5 to 10 min. There is no lingering, just updates on the kids, etc. Outside of that it is the Soccer games on Saturdays and maybe a practice here and there. She did come over for her birthday for about 20 min but that would not have happened had the girls not have been with me for my week.
I did let her know she could come by and pick them up, take them some where to celebrate however she came back and asked if she could just come to the house for a few to celebrate with them. The only reason why she did this was because she had plans to go out with her friends and picking them up and doing something with them would have interfered with that.
I will monitor but I don't think there is enough time spent together to get that impression.
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Also, what do you do down the road when you have a new partner?
I don't think it will continue as they get older. If she gets remarried then I will revisit my role in doing this since their step-father might handle them and the gifts until they are old enough to fend for themselves.
Until that happens/if it happens I do feel that I do have a responsibility to make sure things like this happen. The girls are so in tune to birthdays and they started telling me like 3 weeks ago what they wanted to get mommy. I guess I could have told them "Sorry, it's not happening...mommy and daddy are divorced now and if you want to get her a present she can go buy it herself".....I just didn't think it was right.
More than likely the next person I am with is going to have kids and an EX H so I am sure they will understand and maybe even appreciate my stance on the matter. Maybe my EW doesn't come over to the house as I know that if it was her week I would not have participated it was just the circumstances.
In fact the W and kiddos had dinner on Saturday night with some close family friends and I wasn't invited.
The truth is my girls really don't understand what D is all about and what it entails. They made a comment a few weeks ago that my parents had not seen mommy in quite some time and asked me if they were going to come over and see mommy's new house.
Unfortunately there is more to this that they will be experiencing.
