I will look up the Nice Guy Syndrome. It sounds like you might be able to figure it out by thinking about the name, but something tells me there is more to it than that. You are not wrong that a change in thinking is needed as well. I believe I have started, but I know there is more to go. Like with the alcohol, I have set goals, I'm almost half way to my alcohol goal of one year. After that one year, I'm going to shoot for two. My mindset on a lot of things has changed, but not quite everything yet. Today, so far, marks the first day I have had no contact with my wife. Normally I will tell her about my sons baseball game and how that went, and there is random small talk via text. However today I said nothing, I only posted video of my son drawing a walk on Instagram.
Hang in there brother. I am 24 years sober in January, after several years of alcohol abuse. Your life will be so much better without it, trust me on this one.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
