She isn't the type that would want to go to therapy or work to try to improve the relationship.
Do you know what type that is? It's the wayward wife type.
Go online and search for how to show male dominance in marriage. Also, read about nice guy syndrome. After that, then google the alpha male.
Still waiting for the library to get the DR book? You can buy a used copy at Amazon really cheap!
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I am guilty of accusing some H's of putting on their "Super Husband" cape. You know the type, right? Sadly, these guys think they can "nice" their WW back into the MR. They'll cook all the meals, do all the laundry, clean all the house, and on weekends, they'll do all the other work. Sure, someone has to do it. But the Super Husband tries to do it all. He seems to think it will make his W happy, if she doesn't have to lift a finger at home, and maybe even keep him out of the doghouse. However, it usually just gives her a great big sense of entitlement. I could say more on the subject, but you probably get the picture. Don't wear the Super Husband cape around the house. Do your part, of course.. Don't do your part and her part all the time, b/c it works against what you are hoping to accomplish. A wayward W will not appreciate it, she'll only expect it.
IDK if your counselor suggested following the Love Dare book, but it will only set you backwards when there is a wayward wife in the M. I realize everything we are saying sounds opposite from what you think you should be doing right now. This is a marriage saving forum, and we are telling you what works and what doesn't.
I hope you will get busy and read those links that Cadet gave you. They will save you a lot of wear & tear if you will take the time to read them.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
