Also, I believe I already know the answer to this question. My wife is not living at home, and doesn't have her own place. She should be moving into her own place in May. Divorce was filed in December, our 90 reconcile period is over. However while I was deployed stipulations in the divorce changed, so the final filing hasn't been done, as there are papers I need to sign and I haven't seen them yet. They are probably in the mail somewhere, headed to a ship that I am no longer on, eventually they will find me. In the interim, since it is not my desire to divorce, I should probably just not say anything about the papers right?