Wild ride and now trapped in the Bermuda Triangle

[joejoe1]

Dmoy,

I agree with Steve, it seems like you are trying to punish your W for her feelings. She is hurt and harboring resentment. You have to validate those feelings. You can't tell her how to feel. You told her you wanted to be with another woman. People whole on to things like that for years. You are a few months into showing her a different person.

She will be up and down. She is confused, you have to stay steady and consistent. If you wavier and become vindictive in your approach then you are only proving her point, and showing her you only changed to get her back. The changes you have made should have been for you and not to get your W back. Your changes should have been to improve yourself.

Your W is hurt, she has to grieve and get out all the pain, the best way for her to do that is for you to validate and acknowledge your wrongs when she brings them up.

You need to post more often as well.

I glad to see that relationship with your kids getting better. Keep up the hard work.