You did the right thing....if you would have brought up your R she would have reminded you about how miserable it and you are.
You are right nothing has changed. I am sorry but it won't for a while. I would highly recommend you follow what Sandi has laid out in the rules. You need to be more focused on healing yourself than your W coming back home. Many LBSers think the rules are designed to get your W to return but in reality most people forget that they are designed to help you heal as well.
I would highly recommend no more 1 on 1 time with your W until OM is gone and she wants to recommit herself to the MR. I have not spent any alone time with my W in over a year. We have had very small, segmented time together as family 15 to 30 mins here and there for the children.
My W stood at our kitchen sink before she moved and told me she didn't want to hurt me........it didn't stop her, we are now Divorced.
