Hanging On (Saying ILY Pt. 2)

[mtb1981]

She said they fired her for keeping the bar open too long on Sunday. The law states that everyone has to be out by 2 AM, bartenders included. It was very common for her to kick everyone out at closing except for her friends and stay there until past 3. Cops came one night a couple of weeks ago and had to kick everyone out. I'm assuming the talked to the owner. He told her he watched the cameras and there was no reason for her to be in there past that time. Also, she left in the middle of her shift on Saturday night for 20 minutes or so (probably to do drugs), and put another employee who was in there drinking, but not working behind the bar while she was gone...

To answer your question, I am open to her coming back, but not immediately. She's gonna have to show me some serious changes and that she really wants to work on it. I'm tired of being told what I want to hear, so she can use me to get through any tough spots, and then jumping ship once she gets what she wants. If anyone has any thoughts or ideas on how should deal with this situation, I would be glad to hear them. I'm guessing I just need to be strong and stand my ground. Let her fail and really hit rock bottom. I've been there too much to soften the blow in the past, and no lessons were learned. At the same time, I don't want her to think that I'm not there for her in a time of need. I believe it's a fine line, and one that's hard to find...