I think mlc is just a garbage pail term given to very narcissitic people in order to come up with some sort of explanation as to how they were capable of some very cruel actions and behaviors.
The problem with the term is that it makes us liken their behaviors to a disease that they cant possibly help. It gives us hope that as soon as they heal from this disorder all will be good. That they are not as accountable.
River, your ex discarded you. Without an ounce of empathy. He did it because he is capable of it. He just doesn't care. He wants his life to be easier. He is that selfish. He will eventually do it again to whoever he is with. He is self serving not committed. That's what his actions show so why waste time projecting your values onto him?
Trying to figure out more would be like trying to understand how Jeffrey dahmer was capable of killing and eating children.
They are lacking something. And it says nothing about who you are.
He is not a prize. Would you ever date a man that you knew for a fact left a sick wife? Or young kids? Or an aging wife for a younger model? No way!!! So why are you pining for him?
