Is it worth even greeting her in the morning? She never does unless I initiate. Is it worth saying goodnight? She only talks to me when she needs something. I count the days till I leave for the next biz trip, not because I want to leave the kids, but because she isolates me. I miss them so much. I care so much for her and think she is in full MLC mode.
Thank you for checking in. Trying to detach more and more. A bit tough when I am calling the kids each night on FT. We are the stage now where we don't even say hello when she picks up the phone. I still believe she is in a MLC; shows all the signs from the signs in the MLC forum. I am trying to do 180s which is doing less around the house and more just focusing on the kids. My distance and not being around was a cause I think of how we got here, but now WAW wants less time with me around the house when I offer. xW will not negotiate a change to schedule in other state unless I significantly reduce time with eldest kids; which I cannot do in my heart. So I will have to try to get my WAW to bring kids to other state in separation to keep all the kids together and show that I doing all I can. It's tough, and I am trying to use pursuer/distancer techniques - I think pretty well. I struggle to stay patient with this, but have hope that at least I am not divorced and can stay with her siblings when I am not in the house. Again, what really can figure out is why wait until the Fall to no longer cohabitate. If she wants this now, then I said I won't fight it. Still draining, but I am trying to detach to make it less.
black8, been meaning to mention that your thread title is perfect for going through this. Drained. Draining. Perfect description. Takes so much out of you. Mentally. Physically. Emotionally.
That is why GAL is so important. It gets the focus off the sitch and back onto other things. The best thing you can do for yourself to limit the drain is GAL.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
