Maika- I understand what youre saying and yeah, youre probably spot on.
I'm not going to hold my breath on the MC thing though, even if things start turning around I dont know how quickly she'd be open to the idea.
I'm worried about this whole medical thing. She knows we have insurance and it would cover er visits for her, but she chose to pay out of pocket. I feel like she did it knowing id see the transaction and is reaching for attention, you know? I dont want to reinforce that she can get my attention if she is in trouble if that makes sense. I dont want her to do something stupid if I reach out now, then go back to no contact.
On the other hand I love and care about her. I dont think it would be anything life threatening, but if I dont reach out I'm just the guy who doesnt care and she feels unsupported again.
Does that make sense?
She's not paying out of pocket to get your attention. She doesnt want you to know or get access to any of her health info.. but still seeking you to fund.
Just stay no contact about this, or you look like your invading her privacy but in a manipulative nice guy sort of way.
