No, no, no. You are not being pathetic. Not at all. Your reactions are normal, human reactions that feeling people capable of love have when the person they trusted and mutually formed a committment is no longer invested in the marriage.
Don't for one minute think that you or your reactions have anything to do with him and his actions. Please. Don't go there. Sounds like he told you who he was years ago. Now the kids are older (hes probably not responsible for child support) and you have just accept what he's saying and doing.
Im sorry you are here. This I'd hard. But your only way out is self love, self care. Focus on you and what will benefit you. Get angry. He's wrong and has been hiding stuff. But ultimately focus on loving yourself again. You deserve soneone that wants to be with you. His loss.
