Oh man! I wanna know what J9 was going to say. I hope they fix this problem soon.
reframe - I think you did fine from what you've posted. I honestly wouldn't have gone with her in the first place, but more power to you if you could hold yourself emotionally good.
Don't over analyze it. Don't look for signs in whatever she's doing. I can tell you from personal experience that even the most blatant signs that you can think of meant nothing - in my case my W wanted to spend the nights with her in the same bed almost practically naked, after we had physically separated and living in different homes. I thought this was a positive sign - it wasn't. She was letting me down easy apparently and making sure that I wasn't too lonely right away - I call bull$hit as it was just cake eating and trying to figure out if she was truly done. I did it for a week and then it f%$^ed with my mind so much that I had to put myself out there and she crushed me - I will never allow myself to feel that again. So, heed my warnings and don't go down the path of trying to analyze whether she is into you or not - she's not; she's done. It will take a while if she ever turns around.
you didn't bring up R talks and recon options and what not. I hope you validated when she said she was stressed out etc etc.
Just go about your business and continue DBing. Has she told you for reals that OM is out of the picture? Doesn't sound like it so I wouldn't trust a word she says. She could very well be back with the 'beautiful soul' after minor dust-up or confusion.
DO NOT BECOME PLAN B. I can't stress this enough.
Don't agree to hanging out and all of that. If I was in your shoes, the only way I would agree to spend a second with her was if OM was no longer in the picture.
You have your self-worth and self-respect. Make sure you know that. I know you do, but just reinforcing them.
