My first time posting on a forum... I've read about the tremendous support and wisdom on this site. I'm inspired and encouraged...Really need some help it right now....I'm 44 I have 2 kids 20 and 17. Older son away at College. Daughter at home in her final year at high school. Married for 20 years... together for 23 years. Husband is in a serious MLC... lost weight, started cycling, drinking, stopped attending church, has had a change of spiritual beliefs... says there is no God! He dresses different...tells me that he wants to out more with friends on his own...the list of changes is endless... who is this man and what did the aliens do with my husbands body.... Honestly it feels like a completely different alien being just sleeps next to me.
This all started 4 years ago when my husband turned 40 years old. He went away for extended periods of time to study his MBA in another city. Met younger people and started going to pubs and clubs... Told me he loves me but is not in love with me..shock/ bomb drop number 1. .I guess the last 4 years I have hung on and gal in that time. We went for counseling and stuck it out..., challenging but much better than a divorce. Now my youngest is about to leave for college and it begins all over again.... I love but I'm not in love with you.... I want a divorce.... shock/bomb drop number 2 oh my word we've come full circle.... I can't believe we're back here.... honestly I've read what some of you experts have been doing and I have done the exact opposite. Pleading, begging, trying to reason and understand... being pathetic basically. I'm so tired, overwhelmed and scared....is this really happening?
