If she is hostile / argumentative? If she is cold / stonewalling? If she pretends like nothing happened? if she is pleasant or even warm? If she is remorseful / apologetic (not holding my breath)
Are you sure you aren't holding your breath?
I know you are talking out some of your thoughts here b/c you can't get to her. However, this is giving her an awful lot of head space that is a total waste of time and energy. You do know that, right?
Nobody can answer the questions you are asking. You seem to think that as soon as the R.O. is lifted that you and your W is going to be meeting and having a conversation. She may continue to avoid you and hide out longer.
Ler me ask you some you some questions. Why is this all up to her? Why do you want a woman with such low standards.......such as she appears to have? Would you really want her back, knowing she had been sleeping with OM? Have you considered your stipulations to her coming home.......if she decides she wants back? Have you thought about how to prevent this from happening again.......since she does tend to have a track record?
What are you doing to get your mind off the sitch? What do you like to do that is fun? Get a couple of buddies and go hang out and get your mind off how she'll act once you can communicate again. Cause, there no guarantee she'll let you. KWIM?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
