Here again

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AS - she stated that she just didn't know how to fix our R that seems too broken. I told her that I thought we could start to fix pieces at a time instead of tackling the whole thing, which seems overwhelming. I suggested that we haven't spoken each other's LL, and that had caused a lot of resentment and feelings of neglect over the years. We identified each others LL, and I have made an effort to meet hers each day since this discussion. I have the book and read it over the next few days to be sure I understood how to speak in a different language. I did a few things, which seemed to get a very positive reaction from her, but, several days later, she got angry when she saw the book out and started to spew venom again.

Fast forward one week. She is still angry and barely speaking to me. I have still been doing things each day that speak to her LL. I am resolved to being consistent. When she did decide to speak to me, it was about the MBR. She didn't get her way, and has gone cold again.

She speaks in absolutes nearly always. She also rewrites our marital history (which is very frustrating) and says that she never should've married me.