reframe, big sign. The fact that she admitted that she is "a hot mess" is huge. My wife had a similar moment. It was after I discovered she was still messaging guys (all 15-20 years younger than her!) on a dating site. She said: "I don't know what I am doing!" very exasperatedly, and remorsefully too. It was a "I am a hot mess" moment. It was after further MC sessions, and a trip to a marriage retreat (faith-based, where she had one big rebellious moment on the trip), that she finally verbally stated she wanted to stay in the marriage.
All of her actions since then have been aligned with that stated desire.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
