Looks like you are one of the unlucky ones having trouble with posts going through. Cadet says it is being worked on so hopefully it'll be resolved soon.
Your W's reaction is not really surprising. She had some pretty little picture in her head of how everything was going to go down and you pretty much spoiled it for her, so she throws a tantrum like a little kid that wants a toy in the grocery store. Just be firm but loving (IE, don't yell back at her) and if she gets particularly out of control just tell her you will not participate in a shouting match and get up and leave. Like you said, it's time to stand up for yourself!
