Thano you all for the input here. There is a ton of great info and advice. I'm going to try to answer any of the questions that came up, please forgive me if I miss something.
Anotherstander- she is probably in over her head. She is good but shes still a long way off from competing woth the best in the world. The people around her continue to tell her she has tons of potential and will be improving a ton but she really isnt improving at the rate she probably wants. I think she uses me as an excuse for why shes not where she wants to be, not only in her athletic goals but in her career as well. Ive never told her she couldnt make it or wasnt good enough, ive always told her how impresive she was and how shes definitely gotten better and stuff, but I guess I just wasnt saying the right things.
I will work on being more of a ra-ra person if thats what she needs and I have the opportunity.
I agree that it was very beta behaivior which is not like me at all. I was just kind of defeated by that point and trying to keep things on good terms.
I did bring up a monthly allotment and she was against the idea. I think if anything that made her feel like I wanted her to be less in control of making decisions espicailly financially.
I was always trying to communicate but thinhs would just turn into arguments. We could hardly ever get on the same page with things and sometimes it felt like she was just getting mad for the sake of getting mad. Looking for a reason if that makes sense.
Maika & Steve85- thank you for sharing that with me. I remember the last time we had issues she definitely rewrote our entire marriage history. I'll be prepared for it this time if she chooses to open up communication.
I really think this whole thing is just her hoping to get some sort of reaction from me. Thats why she took my truck and most importantly my cat. She knows I love that cat, we've joked about it before, "she goes before the cat does" jokimg stuff like that. She probably expected me to come get my truck and bang on the door for my cat but instead she got nothing. 5 days later, still nothing she blocks me on fb and Insta hoping that will get a reaction. Still nothing. I cant imagine what shes thinking now.
