A familiar story with questions. IV

[RR17]

I have seen no efforts to make that happen. And I have looked.

Likely she will extend the deadline. And extend again.

Either 1 of 2 things will happen:

1) You'll grow tired of limbo and make the choice to file for D.
2) She'll eventually get over her waywardness and come back to the MR.

How long 2 takes is anybody's guess, but WWs/WAWs have been known to remain in limbo for years. It also will depend on what you do. In fact, if you ever get to the point of 1, that may be the trigger she needs to come back to the MR. The question is will you be over it by then and not want her to come back. That happens.

RR17, limbo is terrible so I know how you feel. In many ways I am still in a bit of limbo myself, though she seems to be doing the work and has stated she wants to stay in the MR.

Yep, I believe the deadline is used like some kind of weapon against me. I've felt this from the beginning. Much in the way many Ws withhold sex. A point of leverage or bargaining tool. A way to maintain power.
Not a healthy way to have a relationship.