Thanks Arista, funny you mention that .38 Special tune because I heard it last night and thought the same thing. Yes I am not expecting anything...I'm kind of just letting everything unfold. Not getting my hopes up but I am also strong enough to not R too. That's the nice thing here...I don't have to worry either way...even if it turns out to not be the outcome I desire. I'm no longer afraid of living without her. Having said that, I think there's more going on here than temp checking. She'd already done that. There was really no reason whatsoever for her to show up at my work a mere two days after we just visited. I guess only time will tell but I think there's more to this story to come. We'll see what happens I guess.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Hi Guys, Just a quick update. WAW texted me a few minutes ago to tell me about a trip she took this weekend to see her sister. We're talking now and she invited me over again. More to follow. Hope everyone is well.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
I think she wants to talk to you some more and to see what YOU both have learned from the heartbreak you both felt from your divorce
AND she's probably interested - as you are - in IF and why a relationship of any sort, would have a better result now than it did before.
Assuming this is about sex is almost funny to me...but not.
Good luck
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I appreciate the enthusiasm Steve LOL! My take is this, she is beginning to ponder possible R but she wants to re-establish that original bond of friendship we had the first time around...the foundation as she once called it. That's what's happening now. She's most definitely decided she wants me in her life on a pretty consistent basis. She's more than made that clear this far. She's certainly not going out of her way to avoid me at all costs. So I am just taking it as it comes. But my feeling is it's inevitable R talk will come to the surface soon. I could be wrong...just my gut feeling knowing ther M.O. like I do.
P.S.-Oh and one tell-tale thing I forgot to mention.. She started using my full first name again in person and in text. This is significant because once we separated 4 years ago she started calling me by the name everyone else calls me. Like whenever she talked to me I was suddenly called a different name. Well she's back to my full name again. Significant? Maybe...we'll see... the adventure continues.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
I appreciate the enthusiasm Steve LOL! My take is this, she is beginning to ponder possible R but she wants to re-establish that original bond of friendship we had the first time around...the foundation as she once called it. That's what's happening now. She's most definitely decided she wants me in her life on a pretty consistent basis. She's more than made that clear this far. She's certainly not going out of her way to avoid me at all costs. So I am just taking it as it comes. But my feeling is it's inevitable R talk will come to the surface soon. I could be wrong...just my gut feeling knowing ther M.O. like I do.
P.S.-Oh and one tell-tale thing I forgot to mention.. She started using my full first name again in person and in text. This is significant because once we separated 4 years ago she started calling me by the name everyone else calls me. Like whenever she talked to me I was suddenly called a different name. Well she's back to my full name again. Significant? Maybe...we'll see... the adventure continues.
It is little things like that that mean more than most people know. I know a lot of the things that started giving me hope was the little things my W started doing again that she had stopped doing. One of those was texting and calling me throughout the day just to tell me something (which is one of the things I started doing based on the other anti-divorce program). Still waiting for a couple of big things to return, but I always have to remind myself that we are only 4 months in. I am impatient by nature.
But yeah, I would say a change like that is very significant.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
I tend to agree Steve. It wasn't like it wasn't intentional back in 2014 when she "changed" my name. It was intentional. Whether reverting back to my pet name now means anything only time will tell. As far as WAW goes she texted this morning asking what I was up to tonight or tomorrow night. I told her I had to work tonight and tomorrow night but that I was off Friday and Saturday nights. She replied and said she can't do the weekend as she had plans. She then said maybe next week. I simply played it cool and said okay sounds like a plan...acting as if it was no big deal. Shw replied with a smiley and I left it at that. Then about 10 minutes later she texted again and said "Wait...Saturday might work. What time ya thinking?" I told her about 8 and she said that should work. So I said okay I'll text ya when I'm on my way. Wanting to give the impression that I didn't plan on speaking to her until Saturday night Od course I am sure I'll hear from her before then for some reason as I have a feeling she'll text for some reason before then... we'll see.
So we are on for this coming Saturday night. I'll let you guys know how it goes and of course will update you in the meantime if my suspicion is correct and she contacts me again before Saturday. Hope everyone is well.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
so what is the actual plan? dinner? movie? drinks? i wonder why she said she had plans for the weekend, and then changed her mind about Saturday... do you think she nixed those plans? i am glad that you were not available on the weeknights like she first suggested... the weekend is PRIME TIME...
Hmmm hard to say Arista. I'm not sure myself why she said she was busy over the weekend and then 10 minutes later said Saturday might work but I'll go with that. Also since my last post above she texted again about 5 minutes ago sharing a nrwz story from a place we used to vacation. So that didn't take long for my suspicion that she'd text before Saturday to come to fruition LOL!
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
