No more denial, time to get to work

[MRay]

I have not seen a lawyer. We've discussed mediation, and that's the path we plan to take if it comes to it. Finances have not been split, we still pay bills and everything exactly the same as before. W has been doing more around the house and with the kids since BD, but still not as much as me. I'm just home with the kids more right now. When stressful times hit she has always focused on work and used that as her escape, and this is no different.

We've discussed joint custody and some of the logistics. With my job the exact days and times we would split would change every 4-5 months. She'll also have random evenings to work, so we both will need a lot of cooperation from the other and I don't think it will be a problem.

I'm seeing W as feeling less guilty when I'm happy without her, definitely not angry. She encourages me to go out and have a good time, and I do the same with her. This all seems the opposite of the typical story around here though. I've read many sitches and most seem to have a WAS or WS that does less with the kids, goes out a lot, blames the LBS, and either has no external reaction to GAL or gets upset about it. I'm not sure what to think about that.