No affair(?), no feelings...is there hope? Part II

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One last question I forgot to include--you talk about how once she knows of the A, any act I do like accommodate or be friendly could be interpreted as willing to compromise with it and any respect she has left flies out the window. My question is when she learns I know, won't the fact that she can look back and know I knew at this time, have the same effect? I hope that made sense.