From the VERY limited number of people I have gotten any "real life" feedback from on my situation, they also seem to think I need to confront her. I'm aware they probably have bias and have no real idea in the way of DBing. But, I don't want to get too far down one tunnel, so I'm considering it objectively knowing there seems be a consensus there.

I'm really torn because I can see a lot of logic on both sides. I am okay and able to go either direction; I just want to do what's best. Would love to hear more thoughts on this issue. Sandi, you mentioned the exposure puts a lot of 'pressure on the H to do something.' Could you expound on this more? Thanks everyone.

M: 26 W: 26
M: 1.5 T: 3
No kids
BD: 31 March 2018

W's affair began: 23 March 2018
Affair confirmed: 18 April 2018
Confrontation/claims she ended A: 14 May 2018
Ended in-house separation: July 2018