Infidelity/WAH, my story pt 13, D busted

[PsySara]

WE had the case management hearing on Wednesday. WH thought we'd drive together but I informed him...no. I got there very early and chatted on the phone with my cousin (he just had an emergency appendectomy.) WH arrived just as the courtroom doors opened. He sat next to me and then awkwardly wished me a happy birthday. Sigh. Then after about 5 mins of weird silence he asked if he should move somewhere else, I told him it was up to him. My lawyer arrived and sat on the other side of me. Two long hours dragged by and finally we were the last couple called in.

The judge asked if WH had representation, WH mumbled (extremely annoying, chronic issue) and the judge asked him to speak up. He stated he was pro se and the judge asked for his financial disclosure. WH stated he was so busy he had not had time to consolidate the paperwork. The judge was displeased. He frowned at WH and advised him to communicate directly with my lawyer since he felt pro se was the way to go. He also court ordered the financial disclosure to be submitted within 15 days. He then asked if WH had done his parenting course and WH fumbled through his folder and produced the certificate. The judge asked WH how the kids were dealing with the divorce and WH responded, "Oh they're just babies, they are oblivious." To which the judge's frown deepened and he said, "Your daughter is seven and one of your son's is five, they are not babies and they are absorbing more than you realize." WH just nodded with embarrassment and stayed silent.

The judge asked about our jobs and what we did. He then turned to my lawyer and asked where we stood, she told him she had filed for default and wanted to proceed with a court date or to have WH and I mediate and sign on the bottom line (effectively making us legally D.) He said we had until June 15th to sort it or we would have another case management hearing. He then asked me how I felt the children were doing, I told him they were starting to ask some questions and I felt they sensed something. The judge turned to my WH and said, "I agree, Mr. WH, you need to realize they are no longer 'babies' and pay more attention to them." I literally bit my lip to keep from laughing in his face.

Afterward WH and I talked to my lawyer and she gave WH her card so he could submit his financial affidavit to her to file to the courts. While walking out WH asked if I had birthday plans for the evening and I told him probably not. He then said he wanted to go out with his friends to "decompress." I had to stop myself from rolling my eyes.

I left and picked up lunch to have with my cousin. I spent the afternoon with him (dozing on and off) and then went to a job interview at 3pm. When I returned home WH was getting out of the shower and left very quickly to go golfing with his friends. I spent a lovely evening with my kids and went to bed early snuggled up with them. This has to rank as one of the more weird birthdays of my life.