and if i were dating someone who could not accept my best friend that i had since 1971, that would have been a deal-breaker for me...
artista,
I understand what you're saying and I agree with you.
I think this may be more of semantics issue, particularly on this forum, rather than an issue with you having a male friend. If your husband is your "best friend," then the other guy could be called your "life-long friend" (or some other choice of words). The reason I say that is because the word "best" implies that there's only one; there's no room for two best friends.
Or maybe bestest friend (husband) and best friend (that other unmentionable guy)...
yes, i agree... only room for one best friend... i think when it comes to the spouse position, there should be no one (other than God) who comes before or above... to me that is a given... i do like thinking of my friend as my lifelong friend... but i have a couple more of those, and i am not as close to them as i am to him...
in any case, in my lifetime, there are three people whom i consider kindred spirits... my H is one of them... at certain times in my life, i have been close with the other two kindred spirits (both female)... meaning, that at certain times in my life, they were in my everyday life... at this point in time, neither are in my everyday life, but they are still kindred spirits... we keep in touch from time-to-time... male BF is not one of my kindred spirits...
