If you dont want a Divorce, dont file. Easily my biggest regret in my Sitch. it has caused me no end of stress. If she wants on she will file. If you want one, file. If not. do nothing.
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
Divorce can be reverse even if you start it by filing you can stop at any time, you can also reconcile and remarry.
The big d is not always the end, my sil from my first marriage reconciled dozens of time with her husband and married him twice... at the end of his life they were apart but reconciling again.
Sometime the actual d can wake them them, especially as you have to seperate your money, otherwise she can use your funds to fund her new life and any Om.
So maybe if you don't file do a property settlement and child agreements post haste. This help reality settle in hard often.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
Use your fb to show gal, but say little. If she blocked from, Things like fb then disregard.
Be seen going out, so I used to change after work high heels and dresses jeans and nice tops etc to push the trolley around the local supermarket to be seen. Rumours flew and gossips will drag crumbs back.
Go to the local "pub bar coffee shop" also dressed up, also to be seen. If someone invites to the opening of an envelope say yes and go. Get out of the regular routines, so it you were seen on x day at x time doing y try to be somewhere else.
M 46 h54 Both married before T 11y Bd 2/14 I must see where ow leads! Ms 18 hs 26
When you are in an abusive R, it's tough to let go. So acting as if you have will get you to the point of actually letting go.
You control you and I know you love WW. Borderline can be exciting to be with but the control and wild emotional ride can wreck you.
So in actual fact, discovering you and who you are is absolutely vital.
I really like the exercise idea, add on some great food choices, some terrific GAL and rest then you have extreme self care.
Look after you, yes it's tough and you will need this respite because dealing with crazy will be tough. Both GG and I have dealt with crazy.
I hope you read the abuse thread and walk to the pain. It's OK there are those of us ahead of you on the road saying it's great to move on and we know it's hard and it hurts. There is peace ahead, believe it and know you don't have to feel this way forever.
Please consider L advice, knowing your position will help with anxiety.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
I'm sorry that came off sounding very demanding I apologize. If you have some time and wanted to take a look at my threat I would appreciate it. Sorry I'm still new to this whole Forum thing
M: 35, EX-W: 3, S:4 All Divorce Proceedings Complete - Oct 18 ----------------------------------------------------- 2nd EX - Was Engaged - Diagnosed BPD 2 Major breakups. 2 Rebounds
