Doodler, I'll have to find and read your thread to learn more about what happened. In Artista's case it sounds ok. In my case my friend has been my best friend for 20 years and I'm like part of his family. When we both got married I asked him to call my husband if he wants to speak with me and I would call his wife. All four of us became friends until my husband left. Now it's the three of us. It's become a somewhat unprecedented situation more recently because he and his wife have problems and they both call me and I've needed their help with my husband leaving. I agree that male best friends for married women don't make sense aside from my male best friend being a better role model for my daughter than my husband at this time. It's hard to undo the friendship, especially during this crisis in my life, but I won't seek any new male friends in the future except a future spouse.
